Many people react to their context all of their lives, abdicating taking any decisions for themselves; They are not proactive and have not clear set of desirable outcomes for their lives, simply reacting to that happens around them and making the best of it

Others have a vision of the desired self and lives, how they want to live and the relationships they want with others; These people take control of their lives.
Short term thinking and bad decisions can potentially lead to poor life outcomes. Have a vision and work back from there with small steps towards achievable goals, use 3 dimensional thinking to help you solve problems.

Think in the future to enjoy the now.